2013 Music Review.

50th post finally. Yeah, I’m excited but then again we have 365 days a year and I have only done 20 posts. I did not do so well but at least I remember my login info, so I bet you know what I’m going to say next. Next year I will try post at least weekly. Bible.
I love music. Way too much, it’s something between an obsession and an addiction. I do not mind. I’m in love with house a little more than rock because…………. I can’t explain.
1.       Katy Perry- Roar who doesn’t like a feel good song? For real it might sound like I’m not thrilled but it just does it for me. As women, when we are going through something the lyrics speaks to us. A couple of close friends of mine have gone through hell and high water and I know this song has spoken to them in ways I’d want it to speak to me if I was in their shoes.

2.       Ellie Goulding – Burn makes me choke on tears for no good reason. Anywhere, anytime whether I’m out there having fun or just minding my own business. Especially the hook where she goes ” when the lights turned down/ they dont know what they heard/ strike a match /play it loud/ giving love to the world” 
 I do not know if it’s the pitch or maybe I heard it first when I was sad I have no idea. I am certain it’s not about to change either.

3.       Victoria Kimani – M’toto It’s my ringtone now. I love the fact that she says M’toto in a funny way. It’s just as badass as I want to sound and all things yeah I can handle this typa vibe going on. The beat is unpredictable, danceable and sing along and feel good and laidback at the same time. You can tell she isn’t trying too hard.

4.       Jaguar  – Kipepeo  like sugar to my ears this one came through; for me. With the fact that the guy wants to treat the girl right and be together forever. Now c’mon girls and the romantics tell me you don’t like that part of fantasy.

5.       Avicii – I could be the one The beat. The rendition. The mastering. And the Video. Forever in love with Avicii.
6.       Avril – Here’s to never growing up Honestly, I don’t care how old I am, when I go out partying I want to party so hard no one believes my age. Do not mistake that with immaturity. I like to have fun.
7.       Basto – Again and Again Kill me. I love #EDM you have no idea. If you want me to buy your product use this song as the bed. That’s just how much I love that song.
The Bad and The ugly
There could be a couple of songs I dislike and I want to throw up whenever they come up but I do not know who sang them so I will go with the one everyone is fussing about. So not worth it.
1.       Lorde –Royal   My goodness that song gives me ulcers. I dislike her attitude too but I know nobody cares. I like Tennis court though.  Blah. She should watch what she says about other artistes though.

Happy 2014 y’all. Dream big and make it happen. 
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25 New Year’s Resolutions Every Man Should Actually Make In 2014

What makes a man a real man? It can basically be summed up by whether or not he makes great New Year’s resolutions and whether he is or isn’t able to keep them. New Year’s resolutions are for you and no one else. Your brother, your mother, your sister, friends and father could not care less whether or not you keep your resolutions. They are personal goals for you and only you.

New Year’s resolutions are promises you make to yourself to become a better person in a variety of ways. When you break the promises of your New Year’s resolutions this year, as you do every year, remember that the only person you are letting down is yourself. I can’t convince you to want to become the best version of yourself because no one can — other than you, yourself, that is. You are the only person who can convince yourself to break away from old habits and adapt to new.

While I cannot convince you to better yourself, I can provide a couple of good resolutions to get the ball rolling when you do decide it’s time to make a change this New Year.

1. Stop allowing other people to tell you what you need to do. This is your life and the choices you make are yours to make. If you fck it up, it’s your mistake, but at least it’s you fcking it up and not some other schmuck.

2. Learn to appreciate and to maintain your home. The physical world you surround yourself with — the material things that take up space and the way they are arranged — does affect you on a subconscious level. If you want to learn to control your world, start with the things closest to you, the things that won’t push back.

3. Give up the people or activities that don’t benefit you. If they aren’t beneficial, then they are wasteful. Time is a commodity, which no one can afford to waste.

4. Never allow anyone to talk down to you. Once you allow people to place you beneath them, they’ll expect that you stay there.

5. If you’re interested in her, let her know. Things do, sometimes, fall into place, but only if some outside factor pushes the first domino. If she won’t, you’ll have to.

6. If it turns out she isn’t interested in you, move on. Life is short and shouldn’t be wasted on highly improbable outcomes. There is always another woman.

7. See the world in black and white. That’s not to say that shades of grey don’t exist, but they’re rare. The fact is, we like to imagine things as grey matter in order to avoid making difficult decisions that we recognize as inevitable. If it’s not right, assume it’s wrong.

8. Stop forgetting what purpose you had in mind when you woke up this morning. No more wasting your days — not a single one. Name your purpose in life and look to fulfill it every day from the second you open your eyes.

9. Cut crap food out of your diet completely. Although, one cheat-day each week never hurt anybody. Building a healthier body feels better. What other reason could you possibly need to treat your body with care?

10. Stop making new friends who aren’t useful in one way or another. You likely already have plenty of friends in your life. You don’t need more than a handful of supportive friends to count on. Work on maintaining the relationships you have invested in for years, rather than looking for new bonds.

11. Cut off the friends that have had a negative impact on your life. If they’ve negatively impacted your life and reinforced poor habits, they’re hurting you. Friends shouldn’t hurt you; if they do, they aren’t good friends and you don’t need them in your life.

12. Learn to focus on what’s important. Prioritize and constantly remind yourself of what matters to you. If you don’t remind yourself of the important things in life on a regular basis, you’ll forget what you’re living for. Let go of the petty matters.

13. Stop believing that good things will fall at your feet. If you don’t put in the effort, the work and the focus to attain your goals and get what you what from life, then get used to wasting your life away.

14. Learn to lie. Lying is not a skill that you should revert to on the regular. If you find yourself becoming somewhat of a pathological liar, then you’re doing something wrong. Ask yourself why you can’t face the truth. On the other hand, lying well could possibly save your life one day. Lying also helps you steer clear of any unwanted situations.

15. Start engaging in greater physical activity. You don’t have to run on a treadmill like some hamster on a wheel, but when it comes down to it, you are, quite frankly, an animal. Animals need to maintain physical activity in order to maintain both peak physical and mental performance.

16. Accept the tradeoffs that need to be made in order for you to succeed. You can’t actually have it all. Thankfully, once you get a taste of the real good stuff, you won’t be in need of the other stuff.

17. Speak up and be heard. No matter how brilliant you are, if no one hears what you have to say, you won’t make a difference.

18. Don’t work more; work more efficiently. Figure out new ways to complete tasks faster without having to sacrifice output quality.

19. Look people in the eyes when you speak to them. Forget cell phones, laptops and tablets. Hold conversations face-to-face and genuinely listen. Let the people you connect with know that you respect their opinions and recognize their acknowledgment of yours.

20. Keep in better touch with your elders. Let’s face the facts: The eldest individuals in our lives have the least amount of time left on this world out of anyone. Keep in better contact with your elders and appreciate them while they’re still around. Hopefully you won’t be forgotten when you’re older, either.

21. Accept responsibility for all of your actions. If you aren’t proud of something you did, admit to it and remember your remorse the next time you find yourself considering the same decision. Make up for your mistakes when possible and after that, remove it from your mind.

22. Strike at least one task off your bucket list. You may live to 100 years old, and you may not. There’s no reason to wait until you’re nearly dead to start living the way you’ve always wanted. Your bucket list is more than just a to-do list; it’s a way-to-live list. Cross things off as regularly as possible. You’ll always find new things to add to it.

23. Become a feminist. You don’t have to go on marches or rant on your blog, but if you see something, do something. Women are abused not just by the actions some men opt to take, but also by the inaction that the rest settle for.

24. No more evading your taxes. Maybe the government isn’t spending the money exactly the way it should be, but even if it royally screwed things up, the fact is that things are screwed up and something has to be done about it. If you live in a country and living in that country benefits you in some way, then give back to your country.

If you feel that after taxes, you aren’t making enough, figure out a way to make more. You can do it if you set your mind to it. If you simply cannot accept the ways of government spending, speak up and do something about it.

25. Most importantly, if you say you are going to do something, then get off your ass and do it. There are always excuses — always. Find reasons for taking action and don’t even consider a single reason not to. Men get things done. Talking the talk without walking the walk is for boys.

Adapted from Elite daily

Written by Paul Hudson

SOMETHING TO PONDER:

George Carlin’s wife died early in 2008 and George followed her, dying in July 2008. It is ironic George Carlin – comedian of the 70’s and 80’s – could write something so very eloquent and so very appropriate.

An observation by George Carlin: The paradox of our time in history is that we have taller buildings but shorter tempers, wider Freeways, but narrower viewpoints. We spend more, but have less, we buy more, but enjoy less. We have bigger houses and smaller families, more conveniences, but less time. We have more degrees but less sense, more knowledge, but less judgment, more experts, yet more problems, more medicine, but less wellness. We drink too much, smoke too much, spend too recklessly, laugh too little, drive too fast, get too angry, stay up too late, get up too tired, read too little, watch TV too much, and pray too seldom.

We have multiplied our possessions, but reduced our values. We talk too much, love too seldom, and hate too often. We’ve learned how to make a living, but not a life. We’ve added years to life not life to years. We’ve been all the way to the moon and back, but have trouble crossing the street to meet a new neighbor. We conquered outer space but not inner space. We’ve done larger things, but not better things. We’ve cleaned up the air, but polluted the soul. We’ve conquered the atom, but not our prejudice. We write more, but learn less. We plan more, but accomplish less. We’ve learned to rush, but not to wait. We build more computers to hold more information, to produce more copies than ever, but we communicate less and less.

These are the times of fast foods and slow digestion, big men and small character, steep profits and shallow relationships. These are the days of two incomes but more divorce, fancier houses, but broken homes. These are days of quick trips, disposable diapers, throwaway morality, one night stands, overweight bodies, and pills that do everything from cheer, to quiet, to kill. It is a time when there is much in the showroom window and nothing in the stockroom. A time when technology can bring this letter to you, and a time when you can choose either to share this insight, or to just hit delete.

Remember to spend some time with your loved ones, because they are not going to be around forever. Remember, say a kind word to someone who looks up to you in awe, because that little person soon will grow up and leave your side. Remember, to give a warm hug to the one next to you, because that is the only treasure you can give with your heart and it doesn’t cost a cent. Remember, to say, ‘I love you’ to your partner and your loved ones, but most of all mean it. A kiss and an embrace will mend hurt when it comes from deep inside of you. Remember to hold hands and cherish the moment for someday that person will not be there again.

Give time to love, give time to speak! And give time to share the precious thoughts in your mind. And always remember, life is not measured by the number of breaths we take, but by those moments that take our breath away.

George Carlin

7 THINGS THE BIBLE SAYS ABOUT YOU.

Mark 11:24 Therefore I say to you, whatever things you ask when you pray, believe that you receive them, and you will have them.

It is so easy to get caught up in the mundane daily activities of life and even easier to get caught up in hard times of life. I used to not know how to combat these feelings and it was only when I really started to study and read The Word that I realized, when I am feeling down I need to remind myself and God of who exactly I am in Christ. The Bible is my manual to life, every situation that could possibly be thrown my way is remedied somewhere, some way, in The Bible. These are (just some of the many) promises that our Heavenly Father has made to us:

1- I am strengthened with His strength, not my own Colossians 1:11

2- I am the righteousness of God in Christ Jesus 2 Corinthians 5:21

3- I am forgiven of all my sins and redeemed through the blood of Jesus Christ Ephesians 1:7

4- I am more than a conqueror through God who loves me Romans 8:37

5- I have no lack, all of my needs are met because God supplies them all Philippians 4:19

6- I am free from the law of sin and death Romans 8:2

7- I am the head and not the tail, I am above and not beneath Deuteronomy 28:13

One thing I know about God is that His word is good as gold and anything that He has said and promised, I can count on. When God tells me that I can do ALL things through Him (Phil 4:13), I believe it and receive it because I know that I am reading truth. His word is truth.
When I read these aloud it reminds me that if Christ is for me, who can be against me? His love is unfailing and unending and I am faultless before him. No matter what fiery darts and thwarted my way throughout the day I can find my strength in The Lord because He is over and above anything that I could ever ask for. Through all the mistakes I have ever made in this life, God has seen me through it all and loved me all the same. The very start of this walk with God found me reminding myself of these promises and saying them aloud until I actually started to believe them and after I started believing in them, I started to receive them in the natural. Standing on the belief that I am what HE says I am has transformed my mind and my life.

Adapted from http://theprayingwoman.com/2013/12/28/i-am-what-he-says-i-am/#sthash.zPnCiftu.dpuf

“The War on Men Through the Degradation of Woman”

“How is man to recognize his full self, his full power through the eye’s of an incomplete woman? The woman who has been stripped of goddess recognition and diminished to a big ass and full breast for physical comfort only. The woman who has been silenced so she may forget her spiritual essence because her words stir too much thought outside of the pleasure space. The woman who has been diminished to covering all that rots inside of her with weaves and red bottom shoes.

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I am sure the men, who restructured our societies from cultures that honored woman, had no idea of the outcome. They had no idea that eventually, even men would render themselves empty and longing for meaning, depth and connection.

There is a deep sadness when I witness a man that can’t recognize the emptiness he feels when he objectifies himself as a bank and truly believes he can buy love with things and status. It is painful to witness the betrayal when a woman takes him up on that offer.

He doesn’t recognize that the [creation] of a half woman has contributed to his repressed anger and frustration of feeling he is not enough. He then may love no woman or keep many half women as his prize.

He doesn’t recognize that it’s his submersion in the imbalanced warrior culture, where violence is the means of getting respect and power, as the reason he can break the face of the woman who bore him 4 four children.

When woman is lost, so is man. The truth is, woman is the window to a man’s heart and a man’s heart is the gateway to his soul.

Power and control will NEVER out weigh love.

May we all find our way.”

Jada Pinkett Smith- Sinuous Magazine

25 New Year’s Resolutions Every Person Should Actually Make For 2014

I have promised myself before I will not have to share other peoples posts here. I break that promise today, these resolutions are bluntly honest and so like people my age who happen to be my target audience, so; no loss.
At least the disclaimer is out there so no one is going to jail (yet) at least. What? Don’t judge me. Things happen. People get thrown in jail all the time. or it cell? Most things are so like me and some are things I know my friends should really try. I am certain you will find at least 10 things you should try. Whatever, here goes a post from Elite Daily by Mackenzie Newcomb.

New Year’s Eve is often seen as a time of rebirth, the chance to start anew. We all come up with the regular resolutions for the upcoming year (losing weight, seeing family more often and/or falling in love ), but often our ideas of what should change are too broad. This New Year’s Eve, we should all vow to take a closer look into our lives and make decisions about ourselves then. These are the 25 New Year’s resolutions every person should make:

1.Stop posting negative sh*t about celebrities on social media. Miley Cyrus does not care what you think about her haircut, Justin Bieber does not care what you think of his tattoos and Gwyneth Paltrow couldn’t care less regarding what you think about her diet.

2. Stop resenting yourself for drunk texting your ex.  Sure, its a little embarrassing, but at least you’re addressing your feelings. Not that you should aim to drink an entire bottle of rum then see what happens, but… roll with the punches.

3. Leave the country. If you don’t have money, look into doing charity work abroad. Some programs will sponsor you.

4. If you hate your job, quit your job. Repeat after me: THE MONEY IS NOT WORTH IT. Food and shelter are clutch though, so make sure you have another job lined up.

5. Stop beating yourself up for skipping the gym on days you truly didn’t have time. But also, stop skipping the gym on days you had plenty of time to go.

6. Make up — not to be confused with make out — with an ex.

7. Rid yourself of enemies. Apologize for what you did wrong and forgive those who have wronged you.

8. Rid yourself of “frenemies.” Don’t spend 2014 surrounded by people you secretly despise.

9. If you think somebody is cute, say “hi” and introduce yourself. Every relationship you have ever had started with a greeting.

10. Leave your phone number for someone. Worst-case scenario: you won’t get a call and maybe you’ll feel a tiny bit embarrassed. Regardless of the outcome, you put yourself out there and probably made the other person’s day.

11. Stop caring about how many people “like” your Instagram photos. If you like the photo enough to post it, what else matters? Social media anxiety is a waste of time.

12. Cross something off your bucket list. Sky dive, bungee jump, scuba dive, etc. Don’t make excuses as to why you can’t accomplish something, and check out

13. Stop hating yourself for eating dessert. A piece of birthday cake is a right, not a privilege.

14. Keep a journal. It doesn’t have to be something you use daily, but documenting your experiences is incredibly important. You’ll appreciate it later.

15. Strengthen relationships with family members. Blood is thicker than water.

16. Help strangers. “Pay it forward,” do good things for the world — and don’t post a Facebook status about it.

17. Conquer a fear. Personally, I fear Bikram yoga.

18. Turn off your smartphone at dinner.

19. Don’t check your Twitter feed when you’re with friends.

20. Try a fashion trend you never thought you could pull off. And, do it with confidence. Floppy hats, snap backs, Harem pants; you can do it!

21. Double-text without fear. THOU SHALL NOT BE IGNORED!

22. Shop locally, eat locally and recognize where your money is going. Consumers control the economy, so visit the mom-and-pop coffee shop down the street instead of KFC. 

23. Cry. When you’re happy and when you’re sad; embrace your emotions as they come.

24. Stop being so shallow. Next time you find yourself judging someone based on his or her appearance, imagine the person standing in front of you saying, “I’m beautiful.” You’ll start to believe it.

25. If you want someone to commit to you, vocalize it. Don’t settle for being someone’s “f*ck buddy” if that isn’t what you want. “Together” is the waiting period between “talking” and “dating”; purgatory shouldn’t last forever.


Need I say more. This is all you need. Being realistic is key as you grow up ( or grow older) whichever route you decide to take.

Have a happy new year y’all and to my followers, be blessed and may all your efforts be successful. Thank you for your undying and continued support.

xx 

8 TIPS TO HELP CREATE A POSITIVE MENTAL ATTITUDE

“No one can make you feel inferior without your consent.” ~Eleanor Roosevelt

Hard work pays but positive mental attitude contributes a whole lot more than you think it does. It’s quite normal for people to feel like they are stuck in a rut at times. You are not happy neither are you sad. You may have a job, supportive family and friends but still feel unfulfilled and unmotivated.
Things feel like a routine that you have to go through anyway. You may read motivational books and listen to the empowering speeches but when all is watched and read, you will know that it is in your ability to accept what “is” in this moment.
Make a choice.
Here are 8 tips to help you make that choice:
1. Remember that you are powerful. Most of the time we have no idea what we are supposed to be doing, or who we are supposed to be imitating. We conform to the external environment. We are not our professions. We are not our feelings. We are not our circumstances. We are not even our mind. What we are is far greater, far superior, far more important, and far more mysterious than our concep-tual mind tries to define. This is why we are far more powerful than we think we are.
2. Choose to embrace life. Let go and embrace the moment, whether it contains an obstacle or an op-portunity. Stop fussing over trivial matters and start focusing on what’s really important to you. Be bold and courageous, and make decisions that benefit your growth. Start as soon as possible to make any necessary changes you may need to. Take the first step before more time gradually passes by while you stand still stagnating. Your choice. Your life. Your responsibility. Your power.
3. Realize that you get to control your reactions. We create our outside reality by the thoughts and beliefs we maintain about life in general. What we believe in our inner world, we see in our outer world—not the other way around. We all have problems, and we’re often tested by circumstances outside of our control. Even though you may not be in control of what’s going on outside of you, you most definitely can control your reaction to those situations. We have the power because our inner world (cause) affects the influence we allow the outer world (effect) to have on us.
4. Know that no one is better qualified. We place far too much emphasis on other people’s opinions about us, often to the exclusion of our own. This takes away from our own personal power. Nobody knows you better than you do. Never accept another person’s reality as your own. Always believe that you can achieve anything you put your mind to. And, most importantly, never let another person’s opinion of you affect what you believe about yourself.
5. Believe that you are more than enough. If you have to compare yourself to someone else, let it be a person who is less fortunate, and let it be a lesson to learn just how abundant your life truly is. It’s just a matter of perspective. You may find that you are not entirely grateful for what you possess. If you focus on what you have, and not on what you lack, you will always have enough, because you will always be enough.
6. Love yourself. You have arrived. Everything you need is right here. Cut out the distractions, open your eyes, and see that you already have everything in your possession to be happy, loved, and fulfilled. It’s not out there. It never was out there. It’s in the same place it was since the day you were born. It’s just been covered up by all the external things you have identified with over the years. Be yourself. Love yourself completely and accept everything that you are. You are beautiful. Believe it, and most importantly, remind yourself often.
7. Stay cool. If someone skips the queue; we may feel our blood pressure begin to rise and feel the need to react in a negative manner. We get uptight with other people’s actions, and in the end we punish ourselves for their bad behavior. But we are responsible for our own action, regardless of how rude other people may act. If it’s hard to stay cool, remember: you are the one who loses in the end, if you lose the lesson.
8. Journey well.
We know life is about the journey and not the arrival. We don’t need to arrive if we accept that we are already here. Be content with where you are today and don’t make the mistake of putting off being happy because you are waiting for the right moment to shine. Sometimes it takes a conscious effort to enjoy the journey.
Not everyone woke up this morning and not everyone will go to bed tonight. Life has no guarantees. Every minute you are living is a blessing that has to be experienced in the moment. It’s not always easy, but it’s always an option—a choice. Your choice.

By Declan O’Flaherty

Adapted from TINYBUDDHA